At least once in our lives, we all have had a moment where we felt comfortable in our skin and knew why we were put on this earth. In that one moment, we were living true to our authentic selves. Yet, as life goes on, we easily lose sight of who we really are. We fall privy to the expectations and opinions of others; our desire to be accepted, approved of or popular begins to override. Suddenly, we are whirling around in a pool of chaos and disillusionment as we tell a white lie here and there, engage in gossip, or participate in social events when we'd much rather be sitting at home with a tub of ice-cream while watching Sleepless in Seattle (maybe not, but you get my point).
We all need to grow in our knowledge of how to live a life true to you. Knowing your authentic self and living it are two different things. After all, to live a life true to you, you have to spend time listening to what you want and what makes you happy. At the end of the day, you are the only one who can make you happy or who has to live your life - it may as well be a good one.
How to live a life true to you
Perhaps one of the first things to know how to live a life true to you is in the area of responsibility. So often, our compassion and emapthy for others results in our good intentions taking on responsibilities for their lives and actions. We become burden bearers instead of friends. Part of living your authentic self is being responsible for you and only you. The only person you can control is you so make choices that will fulfill your dreams and bring you happiness (and no, its not selfish). Empower your family and friends by allowing them the opportunity to be responsible for their own lives and choices (sometimes this is tough love).
Another way you can live your authentic self is to live in the moment. Although we plan for the future, we need to stop our past from pulling us back. Immerse yourself in the now. Get in touch with your inner child and find the joy and beauty of your surroundings. Explore the excitement of the situations and adventures you are in today.
How to live a life true to you often involves being OK with mistakes, messes, or failures. As terrifying and unpleasant as they can be, mistakes mean that you are living and moving forward. You are embracing your authentic you and taking a risk to make your dreams a reality. Well done!
In the midst of all these, be kind to yourself. Take a moment or two each day to do something that feeds your soul. It may be having a soaking bath, drinking a glass of wine with a close friend, or immersing yourself in a new novel. Whatever it is, find what feeds your soul and do it often.
Finally, knowing how to live a life true to you requires that you laugh...a lot. Laughter releases endorphins and other awesome brain synapses that help to keep you young, healthy, happy and free. As the old saying goes laughter is like medicine to the bones.
Don't forget courage
I wanted to put courage on its own because it is a way of life. Every day of your life that you live your authentic self, you are being courageous and brave. You bravely look your fears, discomforts, and insecurities square in the eye while saying no to them in order to embrace the real you. It takes courage to rise above the opinions and expectations of other. You are courageous every time you take a risk to pursue the dreams, passions, and desires that are in your heart.
In a nutshell, courage is part of your authentic self.
Here's a couple of questions for you to reflect:
- What are some of the ways you know how to live a life true to you?
- What is stopping you from living your awesome authentic self?
Are you ready to discover your true authentic self? Let's work together!